Open, Fail, Get Over It
A lot of people ask me how to get over approach anxiety and how to open groups or a single woman. The answer is simple: open them, fail, get over it. Wash, rinse, repeat…
You are not going to get any better when you read some pickup line or some newfangled question. The only way you’re going to get better is to practice. All of the great sports stars, chess players, and scientists had to fail over and over again before they got the results they wanted; you’re going to have to do the same.
So, go open. Read the common body language mistakes post that we posted earlier. Most of what we, as humans, communicate is non-verbal. So, if you approach with the best line ever and you’re acting like Urkel, you are going to fail. Work on your non-verbal communication.
Next, see how far you can push the interaction. Push the conversation to a direction on where you want it go. Accept that you’re going to fail but don’t worry about it. If the interaction fails, let it go. Who cares? It’s not the end of the world. You should have gained some insight on you and the interaction and think… What went wrong? Could she hear you? Was you body language closed off? Correct it and open again eliminating that mistake.
Work on your approaches. The more you do it the better you will get. This is all just a process of learning. Also, over time you’ll realize that it’s not what you say, but how you say it. OPEN!
Wash, Rinse, Repeat….
And having a really bad line but great body language and a sense of humor can be magic as well!
“correct and open again, eliminating the mistake”
Right on.