Two of the concepts that we teach that are absolutely important for attracting women is body language and voice projection/tonality. These two things are essential in our interactions, not just in general, but with everyone. If you walk around with a closed off body language (ie arms folded across your chest) and a soft spoken voice, you’re going get blown
Take a look at the Jay Z video when he closed down the MTV video awards this year. Note his swagger. He walks around like he owns the place. This is his night; he owns it already. Then, Bam! He comes out and delivers one of the best performances that MTV has seen.
You need to be able to walk into anyplace and have this swagger. There’s a lot that goes into this and a lot has to do with internal beliefs. But I promise you, you can get there.
Take the time this week to notice your swagger. Notice the swagger of the people around you. What can you change to make to better? How is your voice projection? Can they hear you without have to ask you to repeat yourself? Are they getting the message you’re delivering?
When the President of the United States walks through a room, do people move out of their way for him or does he move out of his way for them?
Are you a doormat or a President?
What makes you a badass? What makes you cool? Go write down 5 things that make you awesome. This is what makes YOU awesome, not me, YOU! Own it. Be proud of who you are and what you’ve accomplished. Go out and do more! Be better!
When you start taking responsibility of who you are, what you do, and what you want to become, you become much more attractive.
Go out and answer these questions and start figuring out how you’re gong to show the world who you are. Have the swagger to show it.
Brother James
Yeah, a cool swagger does make an impression; you want a good state to back the swagger up ideally. Feeling like crap and forcing a swagger won’t work as well because your facial expressions and so on count as well. Thanks for the tips, great stuff
Definitely feeling good internally makes getting your “swagger on”, a lot easier, but don’t discount forcing yourself to be more positive and agreeable as a way to get to better swagger.
There’s plenty of studies done that show that even if you force a simple smile on your face, you will generate benefits from it. There’s something to be said about just physically doing these behaviors, actually reinforces our internal emotions in a more relaxed, positive, state.
That is, even if you don’t feel like it, if you make yourself do it, you’ll turn your own emotions towards the direction you need to be. And if that’s about trying to attract the member of the opposite sex.. no one wants to be around a debby downer, that’s for sure.
Check out some links on that subject here:
http://longevity.about.com/od/lifelongbeauty/tp/smiling.htm
http://scienceblogs.com/cognitivedaily/2009/04/just_smile_youll_feel_better_w_1.php