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You can’t touch it, you can’t see it, you can’t smell it, but you can definitely feel it when “it’s on”. It’s not the notes themselves, but the actually the spaces between the notes of a song that can make or break a performance at the Kennedy Center. That’s tension. That’s what’s already naturally there between men and women.
A lot of guys I know, in their attempts to be a more dominant, more alpha-male, more cocky funny, or more whatever, fail to recognize that most of the time, less IS more. You don’t have to talk as much as you think you do. You don’t have to be domineering as much as you think you do, as long as you can become a master of tension.
Most of the time, all you really need is a look. It could be a look you shoot across the room to her when she walks into the place, letting her know you noticed her. It could be pause in the moment when you give her a look of surprise that she’s impressed you. And it can be a very effective way to let her know of your disapproval when she’s overstepped a boundary.
Why does it work?
It’s a masculine way of guiding her through your world. It says a lot about who you are without using words. It says that you are in control of yourself and your surroundings and she is safe to be with you.
Waving at her when she comes into the room and yelling her name? Yeah, Mr. Smooth. Go for it.
How about telling her she’s impressed you with something she already knows she’s good at? Meh. Broken record.
Getting upset and riled up at her because she’s done something you didn’t like. Fail.
So stop talking so much guys, and bring in a little more intrigue into your lives with your women. They’ll love it.
