Inner Game
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You can’t touch it, you can’t see it, you can’t smell it, but you can definitely feel it when “it’s on”. It’s not the notes themselves, but the actually the spaces between the notes of a song that can make or break a performance at the Kennedy Center. That’s tension. That’s what’s already naturally there between men and women.
A lot of guys I know, in their attempts to be a more dominant, more alpha-male, more cocky funny, or more whatever, fail to recognize that most of the time, less IS more. You don’t have to talk as much as you think you do. You don’t have to be domineering as much as you think you do, as long as you can become a master of tension.
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What are we going to talk about this time?
We are going to cover the basics of social proofing.
- What is the heck is social proofing?
- Why is it important to your dating life?
- And most importantly, how do you go about actually… social proofing?
Still lost? Don’t worry, R. Deline’s got you covered on this. Read on..
Two of the concepts that we teach that are absolutely important for attracting women is body language and voice projection/tonality. These two things are essential in our interactions, not just in general, but with everyone. If you walk around with a closed off body language (ie arms folded across your chest) and a soft spoken voice, you’re going get blown
Take a look at the Jay Z video when he closed down the MTV video awards this year. Note his swagger. He walks around like he owns the place. This is his night; he owns it already. Then, Bam! He comes out and delivers one of the best performances that MTV has seen.
Attracting and seducing are skills that anyone can learn. And like with any skill, it’s a tool that can be used for good and for bad; it’s all up to the owner/operator.
For every few guys that want to improve their abilities to relate and connect with women, there’s going to that one dude with a misogynistic bent trying to avenge some past freak relationship that burned a hole in his soul. Well, guess what, I got news for that guy… there’s no way that guy can master this stuff if he uses these skills nefariously.
The other night I was out at an event on Capitol Hill. I ended up meeting this guy who was pretty put together. He was a VP for some NGO and had worked his way up there. He had no problems communicating and had quite a few hilarious stories. However, by the end of the night, he was sloshed. His speech was completely slurred and most of his stories were not making sense.
Open, Fail, Get Over It
A lot of people ask me how to get over approach anxiety and how to open groups or a single woman. The answer is simple: open them, fail, get over it. Wash, rinse, repeat…
You are not going to get any better when you read some pickup line or some newfangled question. The only way you’re going to get better is to practice. All of the great sports stars, chess players, and scientists had to fail over and over again before they got the results they wanted; you’re going to have to do the same. Read more