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Become the leader of your life, and the rest will follow.

Dec 06, 2010 0
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We all know being in a position of leadership is an attractive quality to have, but do we really know what it takes to earn it?

It takes a daily march of persistence with your goals in mind, regardless of your position in life.  There are no natural born leaders, there are just people that persist in the face of adversity when all others have given up.   If you can take the pain the longest, you will end up in first place.

Did you do any of these things today…

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What You Do, Leads How You Feel

Oct 26, 2010 0
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“Recent research in clinical psychology has shown that the fastest way to change an emotion is to change the behavior attached to it.”- Dr. Noam Shpancer, Action Creates Emotion, Psychology Today.

As Dr. Sphancer’s article reminds us, taking action leads your emotional center.  So taking responsibility for your social life is a critical component to being a well balanced adult.  Sitting around waiting until you “feel like” being talkative is just not going to happen.  You have to take the action first.

Frankly, you should consider yourself lucky.

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Why Do Guys Text Message? And Why They Shouldn’t!

Aug 24, 2010 0
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As dating coaches in the Washington DC area, one of the most frequently asked questions we get from women is why do so many men use text messaging to ask them out?  Many women lament that getting asked out over the phone seems to be a dying art in the digital age.  Men are asking women over text, email, Facebook,

Guys, you want to know what I tell them?

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Fear Boredom More Than Fear Itself

Aug 03, 2010 0
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There’s always a bit of fear that goes into approaching women.   From the moment you see who you want, your reptilian part of your brain starts to fire off all kinds of reasons why you should preserve your ego from getting bruised.
“She’s out of my league.”
“She’s talking to someone.”
“She must be with that guy.”
“She saw me look at her but she didn’t smile back.”
“She’s too _______.”
The typical advice is not to think so much and just go talk to her.  Everyone has heard of the “three second” rule by now.  And yet, if that solves the problem, why does it continue to affect so many guys?   Well, let’s face it, a three second window of opportunity is pretty small and rather impractical. I’ve seen this scenario play out thousands of times.   I’ve been in those ruts myself, like most experienced guys have also been.  The problem, the fear of rejection or whatever, just doesn’t go away.   And we all know, the longer you wait, the harder it is, as if your feet grow roots into the floor.  It’s just easier to talk to your friends and complain about the lack of available women that it is to grab your balls and talk to her.
But there’s one thing you have to fear, more the fear itself: boredom.
Boredom is nearly useless.  The only thing boredom does is to remind you that you are letting life slip by you.  Boredom is what you regret spending time on, every time. Worse yet, the more boredom you have in your life, the more boring you are as a person.  And nothing can kill an opportunity with someone then by actually being downright… boring.
Frankly, boredom will keep your fat ass in doors.   It’ll keep you from going to the gym.  It’ll keep you from trying new events.  It’ll keep you from traveling around the world.  Or staying in that shit job because it pays the bills.  No one talks about the boring times they’ve spent, why?  Because it’s damn boring to hear it.   Frankly, boredom will drain your life away.  You should fear that above all else.
So I propose the next time you are out, and you start rooting into the floor with fear that the “timing” isn’t right to talk to a group of girls, decide right there that of all the things you could be, you are not going to boring.  You will not be lame!
Then just go and blow the damn set up, simply to see what happens.  It’ll be far more entertaining that just standing around doing nothing.   I’ll take risk of a momentarily bruised ego for getting shot down, than boredom any day.  It’s frankly a lot safer.

There’s always a bit of fear that goes into approaching women.   From the moment you see who you want, your reptilian part of your brain starts to fire off all kinds of reasons why you should preserve your ego from getting bruised.

“She’s out of my league.”

“She’s talking to someone.”

“She must be with that guy.”

“She saw me look at her but she didn’t smile back.”

“She’s too _______.”

The typical advice is not to think so much and just go talk to her.  Everyone has heard of the “three second” rule by now.  And yet, if that solves the problem, why does it continue to affect so many guys?

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Change the Way You Date and Go Out

Jul 14, 2010 0
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Wonder why you are getting the same results week after week?

I was thinking to myself today regarding what really needs to happen for someone to get good at dating.  What do you think it is?

When you go out and get the same results is it your fault or theirs? Read more

Take Action!

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I’m not as interested in what you wear or say as much as I am in what you DO. I’ve seen plenty of guys go out and buy the latest designer threads, only to fail miserably at approaching women due to… not approaching women.

The only true failure is the failure of not doing anything.


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Cosmo Article Finally Online

Apr 06, 2010 0
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As many of you know, an article by Ernesto was published in the American edition of Cosmopolitan back in their February issue. Cosmo decided to take the international option and had our article published in all of their foreign magazines!

Looks like it was finally put online in the India edition of Cosmopolitan and on reproduced on Yahoo.  Awesome.

Be sure to look through our site and see what we’re all about.

For all press or service related questions, contact us at advice@professionalpickup.com

Give Her a Look

Mar 17, 2010 0
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You can’t touch it, you can’t see it, you can’t smell it, but you can definitely feel it when “it’s on”.  It’s not the notes themselves, but the actually the spaces between the notes of a song that can make or break a performance at the Kennedy Center.  That’s tension.  That’s what’s already naturally there between men and women.

A lot of guys I know, in their attempts to be a more dominant, more alpha-male, more cocky funny, or more whatever, fail to recognize that most of the time, less IS more.  You don’t have to talk as much as you think you do.  You don’t have to be domineering as much as you think you do, as long as you can become a master of tension.

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Reminder: Courses Start this Thursday

Mar 15, 2010 0

Our 4 and 2 week courses, start this Thursday.  Be sure not to miss it and sign up today!

March Seminar

Mar 08, 2010 0

Sorry about the late notice, but we’re going to do opening drills seminar on this Wednesday March 10th at 7:30pm

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NEW Professional Pickup Services!

Feb 23, 2010 0
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We are excited to announce two brand new services we are offering from Professional Pickup. We now offer Personal Consultations and Wingman Services. These are very personal & customized one-on-one services with our instructors. You get all of our attention and we focus strictly on you.

We understand not everyone is able to take Professional Pickup 4 Week Workshops. It’s a big commitment! We know. So Brother James and I have created these new services for those of you wanting a more personal experience & help.

In our Personal Consultations we work with you to get you past your sticking points. We have all the tools that we teach in our Workshop available for you, but customized to your specific needs. No wasted time. No boring lectures with things you’ve already heard.

In our Wingman Service, we go right infield with you. We make introductions. We get through lines. We demonstrate to you how we do it. And we give you tips and advice related to you, along the way. Probably our most exciting service offer.

All completely confidential. No one has to know. We are just a couple of guys hanging out.
Best part, it’s a lot of fun. Any questions? advice@professionalpickup.com

Fear Boredom More Than Fear Itself

Feb 21, 2010 1
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There’s always a bit of fear that goes into approaching women.   From the moment you see who you want, your reptilian part of your brain starts to fire off all kinds of reasons why you should preserve your ego from getting bruised.
“She’s out of my league.”
“She’s talking to someone.”
“She must be with that guy.”
“She saw me look at her but she didn’t smile back.”
“She’s too _______.”
The typical advice is not to think so much and just go talk to her.  Everyone has heard of the “three second” rule by now.  And yet, if that solves the problem, why does it continue to affect so many guys?   Well, let’s face it, a three second window of opportunity is pretty small and rather impractical. I’ve seen this scenario play out thousands of times.   I’ve been in those ruts myself, like most experienced guys have also been.  The problem, the fear of rejection or whatever, just doesn’t go away.   And we all know, the longer you wait, the harder it is, as if your feet grow roots into the floor.  It’s just easier to talk to your friends and complain about the lack of available women that it is to grab your balls and talk to her.
But there’s one thing you have to fear, more the fear itself: boredom.
Boredom is nearly useless.  The only thing boredom does is to remind you that you are letting life slip by you.  Boredom is what you regret spending time on, every time. Worse yet, the more boredom you have in your life, the more boring you are as a person.  And nothing can kill an opportunity with someone then by actually being downright… boring.
Frankly, boredom will keep your fat ass in doors.   It’ll keep you from going to the gym.  It’ll keep you from trying new events.  It’ll keep you from traveling around the world.  Or staying in that shit job because it pays the bills.  No one talks about the boring times they’ve spent, why?  Because it’s damn boring to hear it.   Frankly, boredom will drain your life away.  You should fear that above all else.
So I propose the next time you are out, and you start rooting into the floor with fear that the “timing” isn’t right to talk to a group of girls, decide right there that of all the things you could be, you are not going to boring.  You will not be lame!
Then just go and blow the damn set up, simply to see what happens.  It’ll be far more entertaining that just standing around doing nothing.   I’ll take risk of a momentarily bruised ego for getting shot down, than boredom any day.  It’s frankly a lot safer.

There’s always a bit of fear that goes into approaching women.   From the moment you see who you want, your reptilian part of your brain starts to fire off all kinds of reasons why you should preserve your ego from getting bruised.

“She’s out of my league.”

“She’s talking to someone.”

“She must be with that guy.”

“She saw me look at her but she didn’t smile back.”

“She’s too _______.”

The typical advice is not to think so much and just go talk to her.  Everyone has heard of the “three second” rule by now.  And yet, if that solves the problem, why does it continue to affect so many guys?

Read more

Expanded Services

Feb 20, 2010 0

We’re proud to announce our expanded expert dating and pickup advice services for DC.  Depending on your schedule, you will be able to to find the right service for you.

We’re now offering Personal Consultations, a Wingman Service, and a split 2 week version of our ground breaking 4 week course.

To see all of our Personalized Services, check out our Services page.

Secrets of Tension Seminar (UPDATED)

Feb 01, 2010 0

Deline will speak about the Secrets of Tension and why it’s a good thing.  This seminar is not to be missed!  It’s been rescheduled due to the snowpocolypse.

When: Wednesday, February 17, 2010 7:00 PM
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